PARENTS GET A CLUE. Here's a word your child should hear often: NO. Guess what? They won't die when you say it! AND MEAN IT! Say it, say it often, and don't back down. Make them earn things. Make them earn things because it will make them appreciate the things they have, and they will learn from the work they had to do to get it!
Stop stroking your kid's ego in the name of "self-esteem". That's a load of crap. Kids need to learn to RESPECT themselves. And remember that respect is EARNED. What?? YES! Kids need to EARN their RESPECT for THEMSELVES. They learn to respect themselves by having to WORK for it! By having to CHALLENGE THEMSELVES!!! By learning to be INDEPENDENT of their parents and be SELF RELIANT! Does this means parents can't help? Sometimes YES! Sure, a bit of help here and there is a good thing. But more often than not kids aren't getting help....they're getting it done FOR them! For crying out loud! A kid will respect himself when he has been able to accomplish something genuinely of his own skill and wits. A kid who has self-respect has respect for others. A kid who has self-esteem has been told all his life how wonderful he is, no matter how good or bad he may actually be, and hasn't learned to fend for himself.
So. If you have self-esteem....you're going to think that you're a better 'baller than anyone, that your marker shoots better, and you know more than anyone, and you're going to have to do WHATEVER it takes to win so that your self-esteem stays inflated. You're gonna be a stuck-up noob that no one likes.
If you have self-respect, you're gonna play the game fairly, understanding that you are relying on the skills you've DEVELOPED by practice, listening to other players, and studying the game. Your self-respect will not allow you to cheat, as you know that you are cheating yourself as much as anyone else. Your self-respect will require courtesy and consideration towards other players because you know that doing so will earn you courtesy and respect in return.
All these self-worshipping kids who have high self-esteem have parents with the totally wrong concept of raising children.
How does this apply? A noob with high self-esteem wants a straight shootout so he can rack up the kills and brag about his skills. He wants to stand behind a tree with his fancy marker, spray paint, and kill everyone without breaking a sweat. He doesn't want to have to work hard or figure something out. He doesn't want to have to think. That would require too much effort. He wants instant gratification of his need for ego-inflation.
This post has been edited by I.K.E.: 26 July 2010 - 04:56 PM