RED WOLF, on Dec 3 2005, 11:28 PM, said:
thats cause its from the website. but i agree with it completly.
personley spend time with actuall commanders and veterans of the forces, youll learn some things.
when dealing with your men. " be a friend never a pal"
that last statement is so true, both on the field and off. I would recommend commanders read "Military Methods", penned supposedly by the grandson or greatgrandson of Sun Tzu (don't remember his name offhand). One of the things he touts is to praise your troops, lead them, but never give concession to any of them. Run them hard (running with them to prove you won't ask more of them than you would yourself), praise them when they do good, but never let them off easy when they break from what they're supposed to do. Keep things equal with all of them, have no favorites, even if they're you're best friend off the field. This can cause some hard feelings, but in the end it makes for a stronger team, which is what everyone should be trying to achieve.
One of my first supervisor's applied this concept (without having read the book) with me...we would hang out all the time away from work, but at work, he was my boss and I gained no special favor. I in turn did the same with my shift (I was the lead) and while they may not have liked me all the time, they respected the fact that we had turned into a self-sufficient, finely tuned shift and could handle anything that happened, no matter how out of the ordinary it was. They knew I would back them 100% as long as their actions were justifiable, just like my boss did with me. But if they (or I) screwed up, we may front to keep the exec's from breathing fire, but it was always discussed and punished (if need be) within our own ranks.
Like was said before, to be a good commander, you must be a LEADER, not just someone barking orders. It doesn't require you being their best friend, but it does require their respect and trust that you're not going to send them into "battle" needlessly. I don't remember where I read it, but a quote I picked up goes something like this, "as a leader, in battle there are times when lives will be lost. Make sure you 'spend' those lives to accomplish a task, don't just waste them." Something like that. It holds true. If your troops know your judgement is sound and you aren't unecessarily reckless, they'll trust you and follow your orders, even when they don't make sense and you don't have time to explain them.